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The Truth Behind My Abusive Relationship

When my friends used to tell me to leave my relationship whilst I still can, I never listened. They would tell me I was in an abusive relationship and it was dangerous, but how could it be when he had never hit me? How could it be when he had never threatened to punch me or tried to strangle me?

I understand now. It has been just under three years since we broke up, and I can finally admit I was in a abusive relationship. Everybody else could see it; apart from me. Because Love is blind.

When we first got together, things were great. I fell for him straight away and it was the first time I could honestly say that I only have eyes for him. Things were going smoothly, yet whenever we came to any kind of obstacle that affected our relationship, it was always my fault.  Continue reading

My Journey; To be continued

Something has happened to me lately that has changed things for me in the best way I can imagine. I don’t know whether I am crazy from being on cloud 9, or whether this is actually fate but it has made me want to share my journey with you right now. What I am going  through, you will here about.

I guess its a current  blog. But I am going to try and make it as interesting as I possibly can. I apologise for a lack of posts again – work has been absolutely manic over the Christmas period – but I would love it if you all followed my journey with me!!

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To A Stranger You Pass On The Street

I bumped into a stranger the other day. She stopped and asked me how I was; what I was doing with my life.

It felt awkward. I told her I was working, doing a job I love and I am back home living with my parents after three years away. I asked her the same questions back – “How are you? What are you doing in life?”

She pretty much said the same thing back – “I’m busy working. I have got myself a car to take me there and back each day from my parents house”.

We exchanged smiles for a few moments and stood hovering on our feet awkwardly unsure of what to say next.

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Why Not Drinking Alcohol Shouldn’t Be Questioned

One thing I never understand is why some people are so surprised when you tell them that you “don’t drink alcohol”.

Why is it such a big deal?

Before I was put on the medication I am currently on I would socially drink. Sure, sometimes it got a bit wild and I would wake up with a massive hangover the next day but that was part of being young and wreckless. alc

However, I have noticed these days that when I say to somebody that “I’m not drinking” or “I don’t drink alcohol” they suddenly have to speak up and ask a gazillion questions. Same when somebody says “what are you drinking?” when we are out and my reply is “lemonade” – I get the most shocked responses questioning me how and why I am out when I’m not even drinking. Continue reading

Five Favourite Posts!

For some reason, I haven’t had much motivation the last couple of days. Usually, I have blog post ideas pop into my head every day, but the last day or so, my mind has gone blank.

Therefore, today I have decided to share with you my top 5 favourite blog posts which I have written. I have now been blogging just over two months and have loved every single moment of it. I have had several fantastic guest bloggers who have also featured on my blog, but I have loved every single one of their posts, so it would be unfair and quite impossible for me to pick any of them to put in my top 5 as well, which is why it is merely just from the posts I have written.

Of course, I know that many of you may have already read these posts before, but I will be leaving a link to each post for those of you who haven’t read them and are interested in reading further!

Enjoy 🙂

1) “Eww, boys are smelly and gross” ..to.. “Woah, he’s hot!” … Are girls growing up too quickly?

I really enjoyed writing this post because in my point of view, it resembles the society where I live today. I feel as though children are growing up far too quickly these days, compared to how I was when I was younger. I was never interested in boys or make up when I was twelve years old, but a number of girls are these days, even at a younger age than 12!
This was one of the first posts that I properly spoke my mind, and it is also something that I am actually interested in. I find it fascinating how times have changed – I’m sure even I acted much differently to how my parents did at age twelve!
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“Why I started blogging..” – Guest Post by Nichole

Today, I am really excited to share with you a fabulous guest post written by Nichole. Here, Nichole is giving us an insight into her life, and explaining the reasons she started blogging. I hope you enjoy reading this post as much as I did, and remember to head over to Nichole’s blog here!


Hi all! My name is Nichole and I blog over at Upbeat Uplifts. I am so very excited to have this opportunity to guest blog for Jenny!

I started blogging back in February and it has quickly become a part of who I am. I love to look for the best that there is in each and every day. Life is crazy, that is no secret, and it becomes easy to feel down and be unmotivated. A lot of what happens to cause this is actually out of our control, but the thing is there is something that is in our control which can completely change life around…what is that? Well, that would be our outlook! We have complete control on how we look at the things that happen to us. I recently graduated from college (can I get a whoop whoop!) and also just completed my rookie season as a member of the dance for the NBA team in my area, The Pistons. Now that you know a little bit more about me and my background I want to share with you all why I started blogging.

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Help Raise Awareness and Support for Mental Health

I am a strong supporter of mental health, and I personally believe that it doesn’t get as much attention as it should. I decided to write this post in order to help raise awareness and help support those who suffer with a mental illness, have previously experienced it, or are in connection with somebody who experiences it. I am joined by three wonderful bloggers who have each wrote a short guest feature post on their experiences of mental health. Please help raise awareness and show your support!


Mental illness is very common – much more common than people think. Mental illness is just as serious, if not more serious, than other illnesses. The only difference is that you cannot see it.

450 million people worldwide are affected by mental health problems, whilst 1 in 4 people each year in Britain will be diagnosed with a mental health disorder. There are so many types of mental health disorders, which include:mental

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Schizophrenia
  • Anorexia
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
  • Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
  • Phobias

These are just a few mental health problems, which millions of people are dealing with everyday. There are many different causes for developing these problems, and symptoms are different for everybody.

The problem with mental health disorders, is that many people who have them are too embarrassed or ashamed to tell others and seek professional support. Mental health problems are equally as important as any other physical health problem, and can lead to extremely dangerous consequences if it is hidden and ignored for too long.

I want to live in a world where mental health disorders are treated with the same precautions as physical disorders. You wouldn’t tell somebody who has a tumour that it’s because they are not strong enough, would you? No. The simple answer is no. People with illnesses are treated with care and respect, therefore mental disorders are no different. Continue reading

A New Chapter in Life

I can’t quite get over the fact that in 3 weeks time, I would have completely finished education. My three years of university will be over and I will be taking a big leap into the big wide world.

The thing that worries me the most is that I have nothing lined up for after the summer. Some people have jobs to go to, but I have nothing other than my Saturday job. I have thought about starting to apply for full time jobs on numerous occasions, but in the end I decided that that would be an added stress. I need to get myself through the last hurdle of uni before I put more pressure on myself of interviews and job hunting.
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“University life through a mothers eyes” – Guest Post by Karen

Today, I am lucky enough to share with you a fantastic guest post by Karen. KD Forsman is an avid ebook reader and reviewer.  Recently she has been reading chic lit, weight loss, fitness, mystery & thriller, Sci fi, project management, books on self help, blogging, big data and erotica… after all what middle aged woman hasn’t had her nose in 50 shades of something?!  She hopes to make a start on her own novel one day soon; but procrastination is an awfully big word that keeps getting in her way.  Her guest post is all about University life, through a mother’s eyes.  Please enjoy and head over to her blog afterwards…


University Life… through a mothers eyes…

It goes without saying that my son, all 6’4” of him, is the apple of my eye.  He’s intelligent, kind, funny and despite a tendency to spend most of his time glued to a computer screen, is actually quite a sociable young man as well.   At 19, I think he’s the perfect catch for any young women around his age – but then what do I know, I’m completely biased of course!

As we lived for many years in a remote rural location, Steven went to High School as a weekly boarder.  This meant that he went to school each week and boarded in town but would be home most weekends.  After five years of boarding, you would think that the transition (for me) of him being a boarder to being a fully fledged Uni student would be a walk in the park.  Hmmm, not so much.

The first year of university wasn’t so bad as he went into the ‘halls of residence’ providing that assurance and comfort that he had a roof over his head and three square meals a day.  But it was the second year of university, when Steven went flatting, that reality hit.  My little boy was growing up!mykindlereviewsthumbnail

Flatting has given Steven a whole new level of independence and responsibility.  He has to budget, make his own meals, get on with his five other flatmates – yep there’s six of them flatting together and spend his money wisely.  Another really important thing is that he has to manage his time well, between study, work and of course, that all important socialising.

University life has given Steven an opportunity to reinvent himself.  At high school he was always known as the ‘non-sporty’ kid, wearing the ‘computer geek’ badge with pride.  I have seen a real shift in this, particularly now he’s flatting, the latest thing is that he and a mate have bought some sound mixing equipment and are DJ’ing at clubs and house parties, of all things!  Like, when did that happen?

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Our Anxiety Experience

Hi everyone. Today I am doing a collaboration post with the lovely Melodie from http://melodiebenson.wordpress.com/ about anxiety, stress and our personal experiences of them. You can also find Melodie on twitter @Melodie_Benson


 

Jenny

Last year, it felt as though my world was falling apart. I spent my days crying in bed, and the thought of getting up pained me. The biggest problem though, was that I didn’t know what I was crying about. I started to cry more each day, however with all of my uni deadlines at the time, I assumed it was just the stress of them!

My deadlines came and went, and university was finished for the Summer. So why was I still crying? Why was I getting worse? I had no idea.

I moved back home, wondering whether I was homesick, but no, that wasn’t the case. I carried on getting worse to the point where I would be happily sat down, and then suddenly burst into tears for no reason at all. Going out was the worst. The thought of going anywhere scared the hell out of me, and I would avoid eating until I was home.

I didn’t know what caused this, but it was an uncontrollable feeling. When I was still in uni, I couldn’t even pop to Tesco’s (which was literally a 2 minute walk from my flat) without being sick first. If I arranged to meet a friend, I would be violently sick before I left, and would have to try and control it whilst I was out so that they wouldn’t notice – which often proved impossible.Collab post

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